Some advice is best kept to ourselves
by Beyond The Walls by Susan Nelson
Sep 01, 2014 | 961 views | 0 0 comments | 6 6 recommendations | email to a friend | print
No matter who you are or where you are, someone will step up to offer their opinion on how you “should” live your life or handle a situation.

Advice runs rampant when it comes to another’s life. It doesn’t matter what your circumstances or even the strides you are making, at the inopportune moment a person steps up to offer their input. Yet, they have been standing on the sidelines and peering in once in a while for a few moments and they have your circumstances all summed up and are ready with the fix.

I’m not saying that they are being mean-spirited or negative towards you, but their comments, when not solicited, can cause hurt feelings and even dissension. When we get that unsolicited advice, it is up to us how we receive it.

We can become angry, we can jump back in their face, or we can process the information and determine the validity of their comments. And I am not writing this to address any person in particular, but to address all well-meaning people who seek to “help” others with their opinions.

In any event, all of the issues we struggle with have a “story” or book of the bible that deals with that situation in some way or another.

I’m leading us to the book of Job. Things were great in the beginning. Then it got bad for Job. He lost everything but his wife and a few friends. The well-meaning people in his life offered up all kinds of advice for him to follow.

He spoke and in the third verse of chapter 21 he says, “Allow me, and I will speak; and after I have spoken, mock on.”

So here is my opportunity to speak to all advice-givers and you can mock me when I am done. God answered all of Job’s and his friends’ comments with this in Job 38:4: “Where were you …?”

Advice-givers, “Where are you when my children are sick? Where are you when the toilet overflows? Where are you when the car has to go into the shop? Where are you when I am too sick to get out of bed? Where are you when I have no more energy to deal with the demands of life? Where are you when it is time to pay my bills? Where are you when my children cry because they miss and want their daddy?”

I know they mean well, but unless they are willing to step up and help keep their comments because stepping in with comments and stirring things up is not helpful.

“Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that consecration and holiness without which no one will see the Lord.” (Hebrews 12:14)

Then I think on two scriptures from Philippians, chapter 4: “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I say Rejoice!” (verse 4) and then verse 8, which reads, “…Whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things.”

I do thank you all for the opportunity for growth on my part in this situation. You threw me for a bit until I had a chance to take it to God. God bless.
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