If we do not heed that warning, call it a gut reaction or intuition, we regret not following our instincts, which are yet another name for the internal warnings that arise. We worry that someone will feel bad or be hurt by our change of mind and, to our own detriment, we consider another’s feelings over our own and we live with the consequences.
The once sought after experience is tainted with having settled for less than what you had hoped. The “shoulda, coulda, wouldas” arrive and camp out with the “What if?’ and “Why didn’t I just?” families and eat away at our peace.
When we exhibit the courage to change our minds, we are faced with emotional blackmail, the guilt trips and being targeted as fickle or unable to make a decision. People lash out at us and we have to reconcile the attacks with what is ultimately best for us.
All of this reactivity can come from people we know and people we don’t really know in an attempt to control their circumstances or ours. And when I say all of this, I am speaking in generalities over time. This is what life is all about. It is unpredictable and we have to learn to go with the “flow” of opposition to what we think, see and believe.
Life is not always going to be easy. Decision-making is not always cut and dried. The path that lies ahead may be nothing of what we had ever dreamed of traveling. What we thought of as a sure thing can change in a moment’s notice.
We pray for an answer to a dilemma and suddenly we have it and we don’t like God’s response. Then we display a “God complex” in which we think we know better than Him.
“There is your answer – no,” when His answer might be, “not yet.” Sometimes we move forward with one decision when God pulls you aside to say, “Ah, but look over here at this.”
Our sights are set on what is directly before us when He is trying to get us to move right or left of center to see something better beyond that. No matter what, He is a God of love, out for our best interests and His answers are never late or wrong; they are on His time and we have to be ready to make adjustments accordingly.
He gave me some answers this week and I know that I upset someone with a change but I made someone else happy that I had delayed a decision as well. Either way, I chose in the direction I was led after thought and prayer and I am good with that.
Jesus told his disciples that a comforter will come. “I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace and confidence. In the world you have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer! For I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
Blessings to you this week and be of good cheer!