You may have heard of such a concept. They tend to know us at our worst and yet they still love and accept us. They accept our feeble apologies and forgive us when we blunder in their direction. They also prod us into forgiving ourselves.
As I am thinking about this, I am mentally reviewing the things that I have to do in the next few weeks and my mind wanders to some other connections I have made. I learned recently of something called a trickle charger when I was discussing equipment batteries. It seems I’ll be learning how to fix my tractor - yes, I know, I am feeling a bit odd saying that, but c’est la vie! At least, my life, anyway.
I’m doing things I never dreamed I’d be doing, but that was the nature of my relationship with my husband. I helped him with tasks I had never done before as part of caring for cattle and keeping the place up. His passing has left it squarely on my shoulders and, though I have yet to feel “caught up” (some of you are pausing to laugh hysterically, I know), I am doing what I can.
My 8-year-old reminded me today, in fact, “We are going out to the property to work on Saturday, right?”
Great! He would have to remember that! But, getting back to the relational and trickle chargers, I actually connected them and laundry! Here it goes: For the men, your relationship with your lady is like a trickle charger. You have to keep a small, constant flow of affection or whatever her love language is going at all times to keep her “battery” charged towards you. She needs to hear from you and know that you care for and even love her, even if you said it 10 or 20 years ago, we like to know that regularly.
Keep seeping out that you admire her and respect her and that she is on your mind throughout the day. Call her for no reason - just because you want to hear her voice.
And women, men are like laundry. I’m sorry guys, this is my analogy and women will fully understand this. If we look at our guys like they are a chore or a nuisance, then tending to them is no fun. If we ignore them, their wants and needs begin to pile up and they become a headache and overwhelming to try to manage.
However, if we work with them and tend to them daily, then they look better to us and we are happy with them. It doesn’t hurt to smile at them and tell them they are wonderful and you are grateful for them, even when they have brought their work home with them. I knew when Chris had been working the cattle and not just because he told me, there is a certain aroma that comes with it.
Our relationship with God works much the same way. Every day and even several times during the day, we need to connect with God. Whether devotional times, reading His word, prayer, songs of praise, or a simple “Thank You, Lord, for the day.”
He wants to be here for us, keep our batteries fully charged and our laundry done, metaphorically speaking, of course. When we keep connected with those we care for, the smell of cattle, soil or any other grime we might pick up along the way is not quite as bad, as we greet each other at the end of the day. The scents become a warm, safe haven of familiarity that welcomes us to where we belong.
Our time with God, too, becomes a warm, safe haven as we are drawn into His loving arms and He wipes away the toils of the day. He wants us to know His love as we reach out to Him.
In the book of Jeremiah is a verse for the week - “The Lord appeared from old to me saying, Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with loving-kindness have I drawn you and continue My faithfulness to you.” (31:3)
Thank You, Lord, for Your everlasting love and loving-kindness, shielding me even from myself.